Face It: It’s Over

Chris Stokel-Walker struggled with staying Facebook friends with his ex-girlfriend:

In a relationship, you weave yourself into your partner’s life. After a breakup, you undo all that work and unpick yourself from each other’s tapestries. Belongings are exchanged (in my case, mailed to me in a taped-up George Foreman Grill box), habits are reformed, and you begin to relearn the single life.

In a pre-Facebook world, you could do that in relative privacy. You’d be sad, sure. But after the initial sting, you’d be free. Mark Zuckerberg’s desire to connect us all to one another means that now you’re left with a tie that binds and a quandary. Unless the breakup is particularly traumatic, the likelihood is that your ex’s parting words will be, “I want us to remain friends.”

There are some weak ties you shouldn’t maintain. Since we’re heading into a new year there are some things you should leave behind in 2013.

Defriend her already.

Attack Of The Billionaire Hypocrites

Here’s what the despicable hypocrites of Google, Facebook, Twitter, Apple, Yahoo, LinkedIn, Microsoft and AOL had to say yesterday:

The undersigned companies believe that it is time for the world’s governments to address the practices and laws regulating government surveillance of individuals and access to their information.

Let me tell you something Google, Facebook, Twitter, Apple, Yahoo, LinkedIn, Microsoft and AOL — you puffed-up, self-important, arrogant phonies — you have the smell of this all over you.

Pretending that you are suddenly the stalwart guardians of peoples’ privacy makes me sick.

Teenagers are stupid and want to have sex

On how social media is enabling teens to do stupid things that they have done since the beginning of time, but to a larger scale.

This, I think, I still true in adult hood.

I asked them how they knew when a boy liked them.

“When a boy likes your [Facebook] profile pic or almost anything you post, it means that they’re stalking you, too. Which means they have interest in you,” said Zoe.

“Social Media Engagement”

The way Ally bank engages their fans is strange. This month they’re posting pictures of quotes branded from Ally bank.1

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In this example it’s not that they use an Ayn Rand quote, it’s that it feels like they intentionally post polarizing things and indirectly encourage their fans to have arguments with each other in order to spread virally…or whatever.

Click through and read the comments if you like. It’s pretty much what you’d expect.


  1. Because if it was just a regular status update it would be ignored…so everything on Facebook is now a picture of text. 

“Why I’m Quitting Facebook In 2013”

Kevin does what I’ve been thinking of doing for years, but don’t, because I’m a big wuss.

…let’s say I’m denying my real feelings and that I really do need validation and FB just keeps reflecting back to me that I don’t get enough of it. Let’s say I am taking my ball and going home because I don’t have any (good) friends. Let’s say the problem is 100% me, 0% my friends.

…Even assuming that — the question comes back to “How is being on Facebook improving my life?” The conclusion I keep coming back to is that it doesn’t, and in fact, may actually be keeping me from enjoying my life more.

As much as I state how much I dislike Facebook, there are parts of Facebook that I believe make my life better. Not News Feed and Timeline. Watch what they’re doing with the Messenger app. They’re even trying to overcome Skype and iMessage now. In some cases it’s actually better than iMessage on iOS because I can share my location if I want to.

I actually enjoy the one-on-one interaction this enables and there’s no contest for likes or quests for validation.

Well…read receipts encourage constant checking to see if your message has been read.

“The Web We Lost”

Great article on the old web that lambasts the current walled-garden approach, but then scroll to the bottom to see Facebook’s social plugin, demonstrating exactly why something like Facebook has taken off with regular people™.

Not that it negates Dash’s point – it is, after all, outside of the garden.

There’s this video of Matt Mullenweg floating around in which he says something like “No matter what I do on Twitter, Facebook, or other sites, I always come back home to my blog.” I’ll post it if I see it again.