In their latest podcast, The Art of Manliness interviews Elliot Katz, the author of Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being A Man. From the interview the core message seems to be don’t be wishy-washy. Don’t be a pushover. Be a leader. Have some kind of plan, maybe not life plan, but don’t be one of these guys that are like “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” every time they ask a woman out.
That doesn’t mean not being a nice guy, but it does mean having more confidence and playing an active role in your own life.
The funny thing is that I don’t think these qualities are mutually exclusive between men and women. Seems like these are the kinds of traits I admire in other men, or even people in general. The kinds of people I’d like to know better don’t accept that they’re victims of their own life choices. They don’t whine endlessly about things in their lives. They try to do something about it.
I admire those things because that’s how I’d like to be.