Congratulations to Joel. He got engaged.
I met Joel through BBAH. He left some comments, emailed me, and we hit it off as casual friends. I’ve never met him in person, but he seems to be a pretty smart, no bullshit kind of guy.
On his post about his engagement, and why his marriage is happening so soon afterwards, he wrote:
The time is right because I don’t want to let another day go by.
I hope he won’t mind if I steal that if I ever need it.
Also, Joel has observed the same thing I have; that people our age don’t seem so hip to the whole marriage thing.
This new “engagement” chapter of my life has been educational, to say the least. I’m struck by how the kids of my generation don’t seem to understand the “need” to get married. ESPECIALLY, having an engagement less than a year. No, she’s not pregnant. Yes, people have asked.
A few of my friends have gotten married or engaged. A few people from years ago got divorced before reaching their late 20s. Those who don’t want to get married merely seem to want distance themselves from the word. They want what marriage represents, but they don’t want to go through hoops to prove it to anyone but themselves.
Or so they claim.
I’ve also met people who’ve basically stated that marriage, or at least just the ceremony, isn’t really for you. It’s for everyone you want to share that moment with.
Maybe they don’t want to share it with anyone.
But I also think marriage is for all your single friends who want to have a good time, hint hint. Come on now! Inhibitions are low at weddings. Don’t be so selfish, marriage holdouts.